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Music & Intimacy

Music & Intimacy

Date 2014-04-09 08:18:23

Music & Intimacy:
Interview w/ Om Singles co-owner Ellen White

Music obviously has played a huge role in creating intimacy,
but we wanted to get the current take on that story.

The following is an interview with Ellen White, co-owner of
Omsingles.com, a dating site that encourages emotional,
spiritual and physical intimacy:

What is it about the right music that allows us to
become more present in the moment? 

Listening to music is one of the best ways to connect to
the present moment. This mindfulness should allow us to
feel the music, as well as pay attention to the
words that an artist took time to profoundly write.
We can learn a lot from being
truly present while listening to music.

Why does music make it easier to connect with others?
Music allows us to connect to others in a variety of ways from
socially, professionally and romantically. It sets the tone and 
atmosphere from which connection to others follows.

How does that affect our ability to be vulnerable and intimate? 
Through music, we can connect intimately by reducing the 
need to talk and be distracted, thus allowing a sensory 
experience to take place that leads to greater vulnerability, 
trust, shared understanding and intimacy.

What does music provide when it comes to revealing 
parts of ourselves that otherwise remain hidden?
We can sing, dance, and move, which I believe are highly 
important physiological sensations. We can release our 
inhibitions and get lost in the music.

How does rhythm affect sex? 
By getting lost in the music, we can close our eyes and 
move, sway, emote and feel the moment which definitely 
helps with sex.

Is there a correlation between the right kind of rhythmic 
music and how we experience love making?
I think so. I think love making should be a highly emotional 
and intimate experience with the right kind of meaningful 
music set in the background. This makes a big difference!

When is music distracting and when does it allow 
for us to surrender into a deeper space of intimacy?
I think people can use music to distract themselves from 
mindfulness however I believe the greater purpose of music 
takes us to an amazing intimate space within ourselves. 
I get lost listening to music for hours, intensely, and thus
feeling the greatest connection to life, love and the deepest 
part of myself. Yogi Tunes has awesome music that 
will take you exactly there!

If a person likes one kind of music, and another person 
likes something else - can they become closer 
through their different tastes? 
Absolutely. Music should transcend judgment.

If so, what does that say about finding our ideal partner?
Can we fall in love with someone who's taste and opinions 
differ from ours?
Yes. Connecting to a person on an energetic level also helps 
us to transcend our differing opinions. Understanding another 
person is a high level of love and makes easier to understand 
why they like different things.

Is our fantasy mate someone who is exactly like us, 
or someone who compliments us?
I think our fantasy mate complements us on an energetic 
level and not on a mental level, which means they do not 
have to be like us. This energetic compatibility allows us 
to feel free with each other knowing we will not be judged. 
Anything that takes place on a mental level usually involves 
judgment. But to connect energetically allows ease, trust and 
ultimate intimacy on all levels, thus making 
the perfect complement. 

About OmSingles.com :

"As the co-owner of OmSingles.com, 
we believe approaching love from 
a creative and open space can 
be a refreshing new concept for 
the online industry and also can 
help open up opportunities in 
every area of our lives.
Our site is always seeking new 
and expansive methods to
unite people in love. Because, 
truthfully, we know very little about 
who “right” for us and where our 
path to happiness lies. 
Most of us pursue our relationship paths with specific goals and 
images in mind.
We rarely surrender to the thought that our capacities
for love and happiness are much bigger than we ever

Most online dating sites, especially in the mainstream arena,
promote a very limited process for approaching love.
A statistic-based system encourages people to plug in a 
specific list of criteria based on a limited frame of reference. 
It also promotes a process of instant
gratification where people are searching for immediate 
dating options based on geography and superficiality. 
While this serves a purpose, it reinforces a pattern
that we feel is ready for change and innovation!" 
-- Ellen White

OmSingles strives to ignite a deeper calling for love, 
capacity and happiness by minimizing statistic-based 
questions, and expanding upon questions and dialogue
that speaks towards people’s visions and deeper intentions. 
Questions such as “if you could create a new approach 
to love what would it be” encourage people 
to think beyond the box and in to a larger realm of 
possibility. We believe this helps to release deeply held 
desires about potentials for love helping to manifest
them. We probe in to future instead of rewinding past. 
e like to believe we are creating “Destiny-mates” where 
two people embark on a path of new open potential versus 
repetition; creating new stories of vision, rather than recreating scripts.

As published on Yogitunes


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